How To Have A Healthy Relationship With Food And Overcome Disordered Eating [Download]


“Everything is permissible for me,” but not everything is beneficial.
“Everything is permissible for me,” but I will not be mastered by anything.
1 Corinthians 6:12 CSB

I secretly binged on food for the first time in the fourth grade. We had a refrigerator out in our garage where my mom sometimes kept cookies and cake she had made. This is also where my Tab diet drinks were located. I remember standing in front of that refrigerator stuffing my face with as many of those sweets as I possibly could in the shortest amount of time and trying to make it look as if it hadn't been touched. I ate until I was stuffed, grabbed my Tab and went back in the house. Shame and guilt consumed me but I couldn't stop. For the next 28 years, I continued binging in secret resulting in an extremely unhealthy relationship with food and my body. It wasn't until the Fall of 2006 when I finally admitted that I was powerless over this area of my life.

Maybe you can relate to an experience like this at some point in your life. I have been in recovery for disordered eating, specifically, binge eating since the fall of 2006 and God continues to gently lead me to deeper healing as I allow Him to unwind and unravel me.

In this episode of LiveFREE TV, we'll be talking about the very real issue so many women deal with - how to overcome disordered eating and have a healthy relationship with food. I realize there are many men who also struggle with this, but I can't speak directly to how this impacts them since of course, I am a woman.  In today's episode I'll share how I have lived between 2 extreme ditches in my relationship with food and how God used my unhealthy relationship to food and my struggle with disordered eating to teach me two powerful truths! I truly hope this will help you too!

How To Have A Healthy Relationship With Food and Overcome Disordered Eating - Episode 2



With every episode of LiveFREE TV I like to provide you with a valuable FREE resource to take what you learn and immediately activate it in your life.

This week I put together a great resource called The Road to Food Freedom that will help you move away from the ditches of disordered eating and begin to walk the road to a healthy relationship with food!

Signs of Disordered Eating

According to, the Academy for Nutrition and Dietetics disordered eating consists of:

  • Chronic yo-yo dieting
  • Frequent weight fluctuations
  • Extremely rigid and unhealthy food and exercise regime
  • Feelings of guilt and shame when unable to maintain food and exercise habits
  • Pre-occupation with food, body and exercise that causes distress and has a negative impact on quality of life
  • Compulsive or emotionally-driven eating
  • Use of compensatory measures, such as exercise, food restriction, and fasting

My struggle with disordered eating would be best defined by:

  • food restriction
  • losing control and eating large amounts of food in a short amount of time often when I'm not even hungry (binging)
  • weight fluctuations
  • preoccupation with food and body that causes distress and negatively impacts my quality of life
  • feelings of intense guilt, shame and hatred for myself and my body

Disordered eating has only recently become part of the conversation about unhealthy ways of relating to food. In the past, it was only anorexia and bulimia. Because of this, I always wondered what was wrong with me. I knew my relationship with food was unhealthy and I guarded my binges fiercely so no one would know my secret.

But I am so thankful the topic of disordered eating is becoming more mainstream, so we can stop living in darkness and step into the light of God's hope and healing to live free!

How to Have a Healthy Relationship With Food 

So it possible to have a healthy relationship with food? And to overcome disordered eating?

I can tell you it is. But it's not easy. It's a messy journey!

As a perfectionist performance-driven, people pleaser who loves Jesus immensely, I've had to learn to lay down my control, my pride and my belief that I can work hard enough to change my behavior through an outside-in approach.

Believe me, I've tried countless ways to change my behavior through strict eating plans, diets, rigorous workouts, and discipline.  I've tried everything I can think of to stop binge eating, but nothing has delivered me from the bondage to my unhealthy relationship with food and disordered eating. Maybe you can relate.

Colossians 2:20-23 NLT says, 

"You have died with Christ, and he has set you free
from the spiritual powers of this world.
So why do you keep on following the rules of the world, such as,
 “Don’t handle! Don’t taste! Don’t touch!”? 

 Such rules are mere human teachings about things
that deteriorate as we use them.

These rules may seem wise because they require strong devotion,
pious self-denial, and severe bodily discipline.
But they provide no help in conquering a person’s desires.

We want rules to guide our eating, don't we?

We want a plan to follow that will give us results, don't we?

We want to restrict, control, and be devoted to the diet that will work, don't we?

But all of these "solutions" are just harsh treatment of the body that will do nothing in conquering our inner desires.

If you go into any bookstore, you will find a large section on diets and weight loss touting the answer to our longing to be free of our unhealthy relationship with food, yet our culture, women specifically, is struggling more than ever with disordered eating.

On my recent trip to Half Price Books

It's time to realize the outside-in approach does not work and it will never work. Merely changing our behavior through controlling and restricting food will never deliver a healthy relationship to food or the ability to overcome disordered eating.

The Most Important Step You Can Take to Overcome Disordered Eating

So it's time to get honest, sister. Is what you're doing working? Is the restriction of food, the loss of control (binging), the shame, the guilt, the obsession, the yo-yo dieting, the pre-occupation with food, the rigid food regime doing anything at all to deliver you from disordered eating and an unhealthy relationship with food?

If not, just admit it. Surrender. Hold up the white flag and tell the Lord you're ready to get out of the ditch and to get on the road to a healthy relationship with food. And I promise you, He will grab your hand and lead you to a place of freedom.

Learn how to START having a healthy relationship with food and overcome disordered eating. Learn how by downloading my free resource called The Road to Food FREEDOM!

Click on the teal button below to download it!



Did the teaching in this episode help you?

I hope it did because each week I put my heart into making sure you get truth straight from God's Word to help you liveFREE from the lure of food, negative body image, comparison, and the power of the scale and live more fully into the woman God created you to be.

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Question of the week: Did you find value in this episode? How did it help you get a better understanding of the 2 ditches - the ditch of restricting food and the ditch of losing control and binging and how God's plan is the only way to truly have a healthy relationship with food?  Please share below in the comments and let’s chat about it!

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